Healthcare Professionals and First Responders

1698233623Naturally driven, you knew the easy breezy path wasn’t for you.

Ever since childhood, you’ve known it’s your life calling to be a doctor, nurse, paramedic, veterinarian, firefighter, police officer, social worker, therapist, or work in the military.

You made it through rigorous training and a grueling schedule of paying your dues in the ranks. By now in your career, you thought it’d be different, but you’re still holding your breath, waiting to come up for air.

Every day, you work at a dizzying pace. You are tired with a capital “T.” It’s a privilege to serve people in such meaningful ways – to literally save lives, but the day-to-day of your work is often exhausting and thankless.

Your “dream job” feels more like a repeating bad dream lately. You think to yourself, “Is this what I gave up the last 3, 8, 10 years of my life for?!”

You thrive in the chaos of the storm… but it’s not without costs.

Clearly, you are willing to make sacrifices and take risks to care for others. But where has that left the care for yourself?

The stress of work seeps into homelife. It’s difficult to just “shut it all off” when you clock out. Health issues crop up from not exercising or eating poorly. After work, you’re completely drained but still can’t sleep because anxious thoughts run through your head.

In the past, you did a good job at separating yourself from the difficult things you see and hear in your work, but lately, more has slipped past your defenses. You got too close to that one patient. Your heart hurts from a devastating loss. You see flashbacks of the horrific event.

2184097999You can feel the hurricane brewing on the home front.

Work takes a toll on you, but it also drains your relationships.

At work today, someone died in your care. Your partner went to work and pushed around numbers in a spreadsheet. They can’t begin to understand your day or life. Worse yet, you can’t talk about it because it’s confidential, creating distance and disconnection instead of intimacy and support.

Emergencies don’t take days off. People at work count on you to be there. Meanwhile, your family makes you feel guilty for missing holidays and special events because you’re tending to someone else’s family.

You feel pulled in two directions. Your job is important; people’s lives depend on you. But you know your loved ones get what’s left of you after work – which is often not your best self.

You don’t have to evacuate your career to find safety, purpose, and passion.

This work feels like your life’s purpose. But that doesn’t stop it from feeling hard and lonely. I have learned that we cannot do this work alone. We need other people to support us who “get it.” Few people know what it’s like to live through the extreme highs and lows of jobs like this.

As a shift worker in a psychiatric hospital, a hospital employee in palliative care, and a daughter and sister of physicians, the culture of on-call, weekend work, and life-or-death care is very familiar to me.

I’ve worked many holiday shifts; canceled dinner plans because I was sitting with a patient who was dying; left work at midnight when I was scheduled to leave at 5 pm; witnessed intense traumatic scenes; and had disenchanting frustrations with the politics of “the system.”

It is impossible for people like you and me to work in our fields and not be emotionally impacted. As superhuman as we’d like to pretend to be, we have hearts, feelings, and care deeply.

Therapy gives you space to tell the stories, process the experiences, and release the emotions before they come out in other ways like angry outbursts, spontaneous crying, numbness, defensiveness, shutting everyone out, anxiety, unhealthy eating, drinking, or feeling alone.

2135794299Psychotherapy gives you a preparedness plan.

I view our therapeutic work together like a professional mentorship. I once had to navigate the sea of burnout, compassion fatigue, and vicarious trauma. I sought my support crew to help me process through those experiences so that I can be here to care for you today.

First, we’ll focus on helping you feel stable, strong, and confident again. We’ll use a combination of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), solution-focused techniques, and compassion-focused counseling to help you make sense of what you’re dealing with.

You’ve had a “normal” stress response to the very “abnormal” things that are part of your workday. We’ll aim to relieve you of the burdens you’ve been carrying with you through self-expression and trauma treatment.

The Instinctual Trauma Response (ITR) method helps process what you’ve experienced so difficult things don’t haunt you or impact your future ability to provide care. It will help you understand how your brain and body respond to workplace traumas and how you can better regulate your nervous system moving forward.

Finally, we’ll use creative methods like art therapy and depth psychology to reconnect with the deep love that originally brought you to this work. We’ll discover how to rekindle your passions or explore what the next step is along your helping journey!

Here comes the sun.

The clouds are parting, and light is peeking through. There is no reason to continue to suffer in your career alone. I am here to support you.

Honestly, no one needs to know you’re in therapy if you don’t want them to. I understand being discreet can be important in your field.

You, more than anyone, know how fragile life can be and how essential it is to take care of your body, mind, and health. Let’s take care of you so that you can get back to caring for others.

Call or text me to set-up a free phone consultation: (904) 201-2122.

Let peace and purpose shine in your career once again. You deserve a happy and fulfilling life.